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Bismillahhir-Rahmannir-Rahim.
Alhamdulillah, how thankful I am that our homebirth turn out perfectly even is not how we imagine it
but having our first born the way we wanted is all that matter to us. I want to
thank to Hanz Jamaludin (Sis Hanz) and my sister for being there for us even
the person is not there and we just contacted them by using whatapps and facebook
messages only, but it means a lot to us.May Allah bless their family with good health
and happiness.
The birth story of
Muhammad bin Hafiz.
We heard about
homebirth when my sister did her’s homebirth, she gave birth to her’s first born
and i read about her birth story it was beautiful and it touched me a lot. She’s
opened up my mind about the drug and how it can affect the baby inside. I won’t go
through homebirth if hubby(my husband) not into it but ALHAMDULILLAH,
he understand me, he knew I could do it if I put my mind into it and also
because he had been persuaded by my sister too...huhu. Then my sister recommended
that hubby and I should go to Amani Birth class.
We met Hanz Jamaludin, she
taught us everything we should know about liked how to breath calmly, eat
healthy , sensation, labor and drug side effect. We did water birth at my husband’s
office. It’s all set up by him. My edd was 26/5/2014 but I gave birth 2 week
early(38 week).
10/5/2014
I felt like my tummy
ache came and went since I was at 36 week pregnant so I guess that’s how braxton
hicks felt like. But there’s no sign of water break or blood show yet. My
sister asked me “how am I doing?”and i just replied to her that “I can’t wait for
the baby to came out..ehehee.” She said be “patient the time will come” and she
advicedme to always exercise, drink plenty of water and be active. And I
did. I cleaned the house, did house chores and helped hubby during the night at
his office.
11/5/2014
I remembered in Amani
birth class that when you 'loveydovey'(making love) also one of natural inducer and make the wife
felt liked they are lovable. After we loveydovey, I took a warm shower a bit to
ease my back pain. Then I realized there's a blood and I said to hubby “hubby the
blood has show” with a smile on my face. But he was a bit worry because he thought that
the cause of that blood is when we loveydovey. I told him that it’s
nothing to be worry about, he asked me that if i could ask my sister if it’s normal.
Before that I informed sis hanz, sis fay and sis aimi that
I had a blood show. Then I texted my sister ask about the blood and she said “nothing
to be worry about.” She reminded me to do all the usual stuff. The tummy ache
kept on coming and making me felt a bit uncomfortable. At 5pm we went to the
clinic, we asked the doctor for vaginal check up, and now I knew how vaginal
check up felt liked! Ughh..the doctor said that “it’s already open 2 cm.” I was
happy and then we went home to packed some clothes to go to the office. The
night came and I did the usual stuff like drank raspberry tea leaf, pelvic
rock, listened some music and belly dancing. We actually thought this is the night
that we are waiting for, but nothing happen at that night. So we went home.
Before I went to sleep, I prayed first, i prayed that hoping nothing will go wrong
and prayed that we gave all our hope to Him.
12/5/2014
Wake up in the
morning for Fajr prayer. We prayed May Allah helped us and make it easy for us. My
tummy ache came and went again, i ignored it with breathing while doing my house
chores. After I finished wash the toilet I felt the tummy ache again and this
time my breathing didn’t work much. I said to hubby that it’s time to go to the
office. Before we went to the office I took a warm bath for the second time to
relax and it did work a bit. It was 10.30 am and we on our way to the
office. I could not even sit still in the car, I felt liked wanted to stand and i
don’t want to sit my bottom down. We arrived at 10.50 am at the office and i
went to the room that already set up a pool, gym ball and a bed for me. Hubby
turned on the speaker to play the yiruma music to calm me down. It did calmed me
while I was doing pelvic rock to ignored the sensation.12.00 pm the sensation
became more strong than before the pelvic rock can’t calm me now, I asked hubby a
water and a raspberry tea leaf. Hubby calmed me down he said “patient, stay
strong” and he reminded me to breathe. At 2.00 pm hubby offered me some banana to eat
but I refused because the sensation became stronger after that the surges
gone for a bit. I ask him for somenyor(coconut water) instead. Hubby wanted me
to go for a walked a bit in circle,at first I refused when the second time he
asked me and he said to me he will support my shoulder, I nodded my head a sign that
I agreed with it, he knew that I felt liked I can’t barely walked for even a
minute.The surges become closer after the walked. 2.50 pm my mind started to give
up and when i saidto hubby that I felt liked giving up while lying down at my
back at the bed and my leg wide open then hubby said “Baby, I can see theketuban”
I was liked “what?”. Hubby said “do you want to look?” I nod my head because I
can’t even say yes then he take a picture at my vagina, he showed me the picture
and that gave me hope again. I ask him for one more walked even if I can’t
stand up but i insist to walked with hubby support me at the shoulder. After
the walked I said to hubby “it’s time to sit in the pool” while his putting the
warm water into the pool and I was about to put myleft leg into the pool a ‘pop’ sound came out, I said to hubby “the
water just broke”. When I was in the pool the surges is closer and closer, the
sensation became more stronger and I can’t even control my breathing. I kept my
mouth saying “Allah, Allah, Allah” and hubby by my side said “sabar b,
sikitlagi”.At 3.12pm i sawhalf of the baby head and hubby didn’t touch the baby
head yet, then hubby said “one more push b”.One minute later full baby’s head
came out and around 25 second, baby’s right hand came out with the whole body,andit
happen too fast. At 3.15pm hubby catch the baby and put him at my chest. I
cried and said “Allah, Allah, Alhamdulillah.” Muhammad bin Hafiz cries for
awhile and fall asleep at my chest. Hubby took our son and azan at his little
ear while I watched him azan my heart felt so calm, inside my thought I said “YaAllah.
I will never forget this day. Thank you Allah for making it all easy for us”.
The feeling was wonderful. After that we text my sister and sis hanz the happy
news while we waiting for the placenta to come out, to be honest when I waited
the placenta to came out it hurt a bit but the pain never bother me at that
time because I been distracted by our little baby boy. 15 minute later the
placenta came out and we delay cord clap for about one hour after that cord been
cut by hubby, he clean up the room and I take a bath and rest with our newborn
son. After hubby finished cleaned up, he ‘tahnik’ our son.
13/5/2014
11.00 am we went to
the hospital and I had 1st degree tear and no stitches needed. What annoyed me
the most when the nurses kept asking me whether I want to stitches my vagina or
not even when I said I don’t want to stitches it.The doctor check our son four
timeswith three different doctor. The Doctor said I need to stay in the
hospital at least 12 hours. Hubby refuse for me to stay there. Alhamdulillah,
the doctor said he was a healthy baby and weight
2.4 kg. We discharged at that day.
Someone asked me how
does it felt liked doing homebirth? I answered
with a smile and said there’s not much a different the only different is
my son is drug-free, he came to this world calmly and we knew that we did the
right decision. Giving birth is a beautiful gift whether you homebirth or not
has long you know what you want!
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